The real YOU vs the curated YOU

..and an advice from Soren Kierkegaard.

The ‘real you’ will have problems, fears, concerns that will never get posted on social media. It will be things like relationship questions, medical problems, questions about the future, comments about people you know, your deepest thoughts and fears. These are thoughts that are not meant to be out in the open because people will see your weaknesses. Why should you show them your weakness right? You don’t want people to drown in your sorrows. And what would they say if you are one heck of a #negatron?

The ‘curated you’ will be the best possible image of yourself. It will show a profile of your dreams and aspirations, being made a reality day after day. These are images of where you’ve been, what you ate, who you are with. Every single post a realization of your aspirations — a rockstar mom, an esteemed colleague, an artist.

And yet, day by day, our curated self is winning with every update we make on social media.

Is it wise to abandon our real selves in favor of our curated selves?

A solution offered by Soren Kierkegaard so we can find peace and harmony is to “find the courage to be our true self rather than wanting to be someone else”.

To will be that self which one truly is, is indeed the opposite of despair.

Let’s stop denying who we truly are and reveal our real selves though slow and sure. Let our curated selves know that, hey, our true selves have stories worth telling too. Be authentic.